As your children reach the toddler stage expect them to give you a headache most of the time. Children at this time seem to have a world of their own and mostly disregard what their primary caregivers would say. They often move a lot, throw whatever object is on their hands, and often display tantrums. When the child become cranky like these, parents find it difficult to hold their cool as their patience have been used to the maximum. Enforcing discipline to a toddler is really hard thing to do.

Some parents use the method of spanking and yelling in trying to discipline their children. But inflicting hurt on your children may result them to have a violent nature rather to be disciplined individuals later on. Yelling may cause a child to have emotional scars that can later on cause them to lose their self confidence and feeling of self worth. This way of discipline offer fear rather than trust and this is what every parent should avoid if they want to raise their children effectively. There have been theories that suggest that children who used to spanking as a child can become physically aggressive as an adult. As a parent seeing your children turn out like that would be like a nightmare.

Effective toddler discipline should not be done in a violent way. Rather discipline should be done basing on the values that you want to impart to your children. Here are some of the useful tips on how to discipline your toddler sans spanking.

• Talk to your children rather than yelling at them. When they did something wrong, tell them the reason why doing such action is not good. Explaining things to them in calm manner will initiate better understanding from your child’s end.
• As early as in their toddler years, you should have rules to implement. Tell them what to do and not to do. If they break the rule, give them minor punishments like facing the wall for twenty minutes. In this way they will learn to obey rules which can later on help them to be law abiding citizens in the future.
• Reward and give praises to your toddler when they did something good. When they did not put a tantrum inside the church, tell them that you are happy with the attitude she or her displayed and give a small reward like a chocolate as a prize for behaving well.
• Always be consistent with your rules. Once you have set rules it is important to stick on implementing it no matter what. Toddlers are very intelligent, they know when they break a rule and you failed to enforce punishment on them. This will make them to the same mistake all over again thinking that you wouldn’t notice.
• Be a good role model. Toddlers love to imitate what their parents are doing. It is important that they see you lead them in doing things the right way.

It is not easy to discipline a toddler. It takes a lot of patience and tons of love for your toddler to become good children in the future.