Communication is one of life’s greatest treasures. This powerful tool enables us to interact, socialize and express ourselves. Communication does not only cover talking and plain conversation, but also gestures, body movements and any means of expression. When babies are born, they already start communicating. Although they do not know how to use any words or vocabulary yet, they can send their message through cries, smiles and baby sounds. As the baby grows and develops his speech and communication skills develop with it. As early as 11 months babies can start mumbling words, say meaningless syllables. When he enters the first 3 years of his life, he can now start talking, saying what he wants and understanding what he hears.

Among the parenting skills parents and adults can acquire, communication with children is one of the most important. Knowing how to communicate with children at any age and developmental stage is an indicator of a good and effective parent. Communicating effectively is not as easy as the alphabet nor is it as difficult as rocket science. There are various styles and techniques parents can try out to become one of the best parent communicators out there.

There is what we call the basics of effective communication with toddlers. Parents need to know how these principles work in order for them to establish a good parent and child relationship. The first basic principle in communicating with toddlers is interest and involvement; parents need to let their toddlers know that they’re interested in whatever the child has to say. Talking should not be single-sided, the parent and child must both be involved. The second basic principle is avoiding distractions. When talking, ensure that your attention is directed to the child, neither to the telephone, newspaper nor other people. When it’s the child’s turn to talk, do not interrupt. The third principle is privacy; even as young as they are toddlers would feel more confident expressing themselves when there are a few people looking. Talking privately promotes bonding and prevents embarrassment which can lead to hostility and resentment. The fourth basic principle is physical leveling; toddlers are less than half our size, when talking to them its best to not tower over their height and to go as low as possible enough to meet their eyes.  In this manner, children would feel less threatened and open up more. The fifth principle for effective communication with toddlers is active listening. This becomes difficult especially for working parents, because toddlers tend to talk for a long time. To actively listen to the toddler, listen carefully, politely and understand as much as you can. The last basic principle is positive reinforcement. Parents can do this by simply praising their toddlers and saying thank you for attempting to talk and converse. Words that imply negativity should not be used.

Once effective communication is established, parenting becomes very positive and enjoyable. Parents and children will have a wonderful relationship that will last for a long time. This kind of relationship will have trust, love and respect as its foundation.